Virtual Dating Is It For You?

Here’s something I wrote earlier this year when I was guest blogging:

The internet has become the new way to meet people; whether looking for a casual or long-term relationship. Although dating is dating, virtual dating adds an extra element. There are pros and cons to virtual dating.

Pro – You get to learn a few things about the person before meeting them in person.
Con – The person on the other end of the computer may not be who they say they are.

Pro – Both parties are given a chance to be attracted to the inner beauty and not be blindsided by the person’s physical attributes.
Con – A picture or description can be fabricated and what you see when you actually meet might not be who you envisioned.

Pro – You don’t have to leave the comfort of your home.
Con – It can be anti-social and you won’t be able to see how the other person acts in a social setting.

Overall when it comes to virtual dating safety is important. Although you may chat, instant message, etc. on a daily basis, in reality you still don’t know the person. If you decide to meet in person, someone close to you should have all of the other person’s information just in case something happens. I would even suggest that not only do you meet in a public place but take a friend along with you (even if the friend sits at another table).

Beware, the person on the other end of the computer screen can be whoever they want to be while hiding behind a screen name.

Virtual dating doesn’t always mean real! Virtual dating can be fun, but it can’t replace face to face interaction.

Shelia M Goss writes women’s fiction. She’s the Essence Magazine Bestselling author of My Invisible Husband, Roses are thorns, Violets are true and Paige’s Web. For more information, visit or


7 comments on “Virtual Dating Is It For You?

  1. Great post, Shelia. Really informative and I’m glad you stress safety. I know I would be a bit hesitant to date someone I met on line if I were still in the dating game. My mother’s old advice, believe none of what you hear and half of what you see echoes in my head when dealing with folks in the flesh, I’d think my suspicious nature would be a hinderance to an on-line relationship. LOL.


  2. “believe none of what you hear and half of what you see” is the best policy. I also want to stress to parents to make sure they monitor what their teenagers are doing online. I’ve heard about too many cases where young women are meeting who they think are young men online but later find out they are predators.

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  4. Great post.

    I don’t think anyone cate “date” online. I do think people can develop a desire for the other person, meet up, have hot sex, and go back home.

    I shouldn’t have posted that, shouldn’t I?

  5. Great post. I think it CAN work but like anything else, you have to take your time, sift through what you’re TOLD & match it back to actions. I definitely think it’s wise to exercise more caution in the virtual dating arena.

  6. wow Don.

    Virtual dating is hard. Particularly when it’s long distance. I probably wouldn’t encourage it, but one of my friends is about to get married to someone she met online, so I guess it CAN work.

  7. Don, you’re a bad boy…lol

    MsJayy, definately have to match actions with words…but that’s true when meeting someone face to face too. Too many fakers on and offline.

    Opinionated Diva…wow…well that’s good for her.

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